Add with_skip_validation flag to IPC readers/writers

[alamb]

Which issue does this PR close?

Draft as

• builds on Refactor arrow-ipc: Move create_*_array methods into RecordBatchDecoder #7029
• Benchmarks: Benchmarks for Arrow IPC writer #7090
• Benchmarks: Benchmarks for Arrow IPC reader #7091

TODO:

• Tests
• Add to FileReader
• Benchmarks

Rationale for this change

• Closes Improve Arrow-IPC performance by avoiding Unsafe Unchecked IPC Read RecordBatch #3287
• Closes feat(arrow-ipc) Add: Support FileReader and StreamReader skip array data validation #6938

Forcing Array validation for trusted data is inefficient. Users should have the option to avoid this

What changes are included in this PR?

This PR builds on this PR from @totoroyyb

• feat(arrow-ipc) Add: Support FileReader and StreamReader skip array data validation #6938

1. Add API in IPC options to skip validation
2. Pass this flag through StreamReader/FileReader/Decoder
3. Tests for same

Are there any user-facing changes?

[alamb]

Preliminary Benchmarks

My hacked up local benchmarks show a 3-9x improvement when disabling validation.

(venv) andrewlamb@Andrews-MacBook-Pro-2:~/Software/arrow-rs$ critcmp main no_validation
group                                                main                                   no_validation
-----                                                ----                                   -------------
arrow_ipc_stream_writer/FileReader/read_10           3.25    252.6±6.64µs        ? ?/sec    1.00     77.8±1.62µs        ? ?/sec
arrow_ipc_stream_writer/FileReader/read_10/mmap      8.98    243.6±6.58µs        ? ?/sec    1.00     27.1±0.54µs        ? ?/sec
arrow_ipc_stream_writer/StreamReader/read_10         3.17   250.2±10.02µs        ? ?/sec    1.00     78.9±3.09µs        ? ?/sec
arrow_ipc_stream_writer/StreamReader/read_10/zstd    1.29      4.3±0.37ms        ? ?/sec    1.00      3.3±0.38ms        ? ?/sec

Branch here: https://github.com/alamb/arrow-rs/pull/new/alamb/mashup

[alamb]

Superceded by #7120