ci: fall back with some old configs

[SkafteNicki]

What does this PR do?

• Disable testing for windows and pytorch 2.1. It works locally for me so cannot reproduce, so it is probably some dependency issue that leads to memory access violations. Skip for now to get CI stable.
• Change docker image use for old testing since the cuda kernel currently used is not supported
• Increase some timeouts

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Codecov Report

Merging #2164 (6167e5d) into master (09bd064) will not change coverage.
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